The Archdiocese of Portland and Our Lady of the Lake Parish have put together a helpful and substantial preparation program. Couples should allow six months to complete process between the time they contact the Marriage coordinator of the parish and time of the wedding.
For more information, please contact:
Deacon Charlie Corey
Office Phone: (503) 636-7687
Marriage Preparation Program
The following items should be completed within the first four months before planning the ceremony.
1. Initial Interview. One of the priests or deacons will meet with you and review your application form, discuss any particular circumstances and determine if your marriage can be celebrated at Our Lady of the Lake. A fee of $100.00 is required to reserve the church and hold a date. At this initial meeting you will complete Freedom to Marry forms. Witness forms will be completed at a later time. You will also receive information further explaining the marriage preparation process listed below.
2. Pre-Marriage Inventory and Counseling. All couples are required to take a couple’s assessment/inventory and participate in up to four facilitated sessions to discuss their results. The inventory and review sessions help engaged couples learn about themselves and discuss topics important to their lifelong marriage. The two inventory tools used in the Archdiocese of Portland are FOCCUS (Facilitating Open Couple Communication, Understanding & Study) and Prepare/Enrich.
Northwest Catholic Counseling Center (NCCC) administers the FOCCUS inventory and arranges for a counselor to discuss the results. There are normally three sessions. Their main office is located at 8383 N.E. Sandy Blvd, suite 205, Portland. Contact Shirley Price (503) 253-0964 to schedule the inventory and review sessions.. The inventory and session will cost $200. Allow at least one month to complete this step.
3. Workshop/Classes. In addition to the inventory, we ask you to participate in one of the following programs, which address the various aspects of marriage with other Catholic couples. Allow two or three months to accomplish this. Each of the programs is offered at different times to afford the most flexibility in the couple schedule.
a. Engaged Encounter Weekend. This is a weekend retreat at the Collins Retreat Center. The program is presented by a team of married couples and a priest. The program begins on a Friday evening and ends Sunday afternoon. Couples are expected to spend time in serious communications with each other. Couple pays for their room and board. These weekends are offered throughout the year. Advance registration is required and enrollment is limited. Call Michael & Nancy Fisher at 503-267-3605. The cost of the weekend is $325.
b. Weekend Seminar. Northwest Catholic Counseling Center offers a pre-marriage class that meets on a Friday evening and all day Saturday. This option allows the couple to meet with other engaged couples in a group setting. The seminar is team facilitated by both a man and woman therapist, providing a broad spectrum of experience. The program emphasizes skill building in the areas of communication and conflict management. In addition to other necessary skills, the class also presents an understanding of marriage as covenant. The cost of the seminar is $125.
c. Northwest Family Services’ Always Faithful program group classes with the Prepare/Enrich inventory. The group classes consist of a series of three classes held one night a week for three consecutive weeks. The class series covers the various aspects of marriage and the skills needed to maintain a lifelong commitment. The classes are followed up with two individual private sessions that cover topics related to success in marriage. The private sessions allow the couple to review the Prepare/Enrich assessment results and discuss specific issues and needs. Th cost is $235.
Planning the Wedding Ceremony
When you have completed the three preparation steps, you then need to schedule an appointment with the priest or deacon to discuss the readings and other arrangements for the marriage, and then a meeting with the music director of the parish in planning of the music. You will need to bring a recent copy of your baptism certificate, if it has not been turned in prior to this meeting. You will need to allow at least six weeks for these meetings.